My Body Is Not A Resolution

My Body Is Not A Resolution

December 31st, 2018 10:00pm

I’m going to turn my life around.

I’ve gained 10 pounds in the past couple months so I’m going to lose FIFTY by February.

Despite never waking up before 8 am willingly in my entire life, I’m going to go to the gym 5 days a week at 5 am.

Even though I have had dessert every night for the past 20 years, I’m never touching sugar again.

And that glass of wine I have multiple times a week before bed? Nope. Sober for life. Room temperature lemon water ONLY.

January 1st, 2019 5:00 am N

ot gonna make it to the gym.

January 1st, 2019 8:00 am

Ok, still on track. Went to the gym. Ran/walked for 30 minutes on the treadmill. Remembered I hate the treadmill. Made a protein shake which was really gross but I did it! New Year New me!

January 1st, 2019 10:00 pm

I really want a glass of wine and chocolate but nope! This is it! The before picture bathroom selfies have been taken. Staying strong!

January 2nd, 2019 9:00 am

I ate the rest of my kid’s muffin top. And then someone brought me a chai latte. Everything is ruined. Guess I’ll wait until 2020.

Any part of that sound familiar?

Here’s the thing. I keep seeing all these ads for gyms and meal plans and online coaches yelling how THIS IS GOING TO BE YOUR YEAR. With just the purchase of their workout plan, meal kit, and 100% devotion to everything they say, you too can look like the Sports Illustrated model doing squats (in full makeup, including fake eyelashes, because that’s totally normal). And as a business owner, I guess that’s what I should be doing too. Barre is an incredible workout and has proven to provide results including weight loss. But here’s the thing the beautiful Instagram fitness coaches don’t tell you.

According to US News:

80% OF NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS FAIL BY FEBRUARY.

Why?

Let’s start with the definition of resolution.

Resolution: “a firm decision to do or not to do something.”

I don’t know about you, but “a firm decision” sounds really intimidating and way too permanent for my liking. Nothing in our lives is permanent. Our diets and exercise routines change over time. When you were a kid, you ate chicken fingers and ran around a playground. In high school, maybe you biked to school and drank way too much Arizona iced tea. At no point did your parent say,

“OK honey, you can have some candy. But after this you are NEVER GOING TO TOUCH SKITTLES AGAIN.”

“You are really good at soccer and it’s great cardio. Better lock yourself in to 2 hours a day, 5 days a week for the next 20 years!”

That would be weird and harsh and unreasonable. You wouldn’t make those kinds of hard and fast rules for your kids so why would you do it to yourself?

There is this mentality that you have to punish yourself for eating and relaxing. There are good foods and bad foods. There is lazy and active. No in between. But I’m going to share with you the concept that changed my life and forever altered the way I view exercise and dieting.

“Exercise is a celebration of what your body can do. Not a punishment for what you ate.”-Women’s Health UK

You cannot hate yourself into having your dream body.

If there is one you thing you take away from this post, please let it be that.

YOU CANNOT HATE YOURSELF INTO HAVING YOUR DREAM BODY.

Most in this fitness industry try to make you feel otherwise. They play into your shame, your guilt, your “laziness”, especially in the winter months. I’m here to tell you that sitting around a fire, cuddling with family and watching movies, baking cookies with lots of butter and sugar and deliciousness, and making memories is awesome. And feeling bad about it is not going to help you keep your “New Year’s Resolutions.” More than likely, you’re going to spiral into the too well known cycle of “guilt, starve, binge, repeat.”

Do you know what gets me out of bed at 4:30 am to work out? Loving my job. Knowing that I’m going to have an amazing class, get my endorphins up, and then get to make a pot of coffee and sit at my computer. I’m decreasing my sugar intake, not because I will probably lose a few pounds, but because my mind is clearer and I have more energy without it. I run because it decreases my anxiety and makes me feel powerful. I cut out meat because it is my way of appreciating the gift of my body and respecting the planet. I prefer to work out at night and I’ve found a workout plan that makes me happy. Exercise is not a one-size-fits-all.

If you don’t want to be part of the 80% who give up by February, I want you to think about your New Year’s Fitness Resolution and do two things to it.

1. Make it about YOU - Focus on how healthy eating and exercise will benefit you and only you. Don’t lose weight to look more attractive to others. Don’t exercise to punish yourself for 5 glasses of spiked egg nog. Acting on feelings of guilt, depression, sadness, or self-deprecation cannot and will not yield positive results. Acting on excitement, optimism, dedication, and self-love WILL. Contrary to popular belief, intuitive eating and a positive body image does not mean sitting on the couch and eating tubs of ice cream. When I started loving and listening to my body and stopped making decisions about my health based on feelings of obligation or guilt, with ZERO rules as to what I could or could not eat, I found myself craving a long walk when I was stressed, soup with lots of greens when I’m sick, a glass of wine when I’m sad. Listen, love, and learn.

2. Balance it out- I don’t know about you, but when I hear “no sugar, no bread, no caffeine, no dairy starting tomorrow” the first thing I want to do is run to Starbucks and wolf down a venti vanilla latte, slice of lemon pound cake, and a cheese danish. But if I hadn’t said that, my actual meal would have probably consisted of a tall unsweetened soy latte and a bagel with avocado spread. Do you see where I’m going with this? There are some awesome charts out there that show the benefits of a balanced diet and how eating a small amount of something “bad” 3-5 days a week actually puts you at more of a caloric deficit (aka how you lose weight) versus a “perfect diet” 6 days a week with one “cheat” day.

You can sleep another hour. You can grab the donut instead of a protein shake. You can do whatever you want. But consistently making balanced choices throughout the week/month/year/lifetime is going to give you lasting results that the crash and burn diets and workout plans just can’t realistically deliver.

So here’s my “New Year’s Resolution” for you guys.

I’m going to workout when I feel like it. I’m going to take my dog on more hikes with my husband. I’m going to eat real food, mostly plants, when I’m hungry and stop when I’m full. I’m also going to eat something yummy every day. I’m going to try to drink more water and less caffeine. I’m going to sleep when I’m tired. I’m going to be more forgiving and loving both to myself and others. And I’m definitely going to try to not be mad at myself if I feel like I’m failing at one of these but just try to do better the next day. Whether that day is in a week, a month, or sometime next summer.

I’m going to be happy and healthy and strong. And I will help you do the same, every step of the way.

-Story



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